Why mature people don't chase total control

The child has no control at all and the adult tries to control too much. But there is a third way.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• In this week’s Mini Philosophy interview, I spoke with philosopher Oliver Burkeman about how our desire for control grows from childhood dependency and often leads to stress and existential angst in adulthood.

  
  

• Burkeman challenges modern definitions of a “meaningful life,” suggesting that small acts of care and presence can be profoundly significant.

  
  

• A happy life lies in accepting our limits — like a “dancing monk” who acts freely without trying to gain others’ approval.